One of the sub-topics on Basecamp is the raising of boys, who will one day be our men. Our public school system is problematic in the development of our boys. This is not a knock on all the good people who teach and administer in the public schools. It’s just that having boys sit at a desk and do assigned, menial work without much collaboration or creative problem solving is essentially preparing them to sit and obey an authority figure. It’s social engineering. It‘s good preparation for the military or a life of following orders but is it maximizing their potential?
We all want to feel good and sometimes just a little more awareness of a situation goes a long way. Has it started to dawn on you that our system is not made for optimal health? If it was, we would have radically different outcomes than the ones we have now. It seems the chemical industry has partnered with the food industry and the municipal water companies to give us chemical compounds that may be making us sick. There’s plenty of science to back this up if you care to look. Here is my Interview with Michael Anderson!
Hello listeners, I hope you are all having a great festive Holiday season. Before we get to our interview, I wanted to give you some updates on Basecamp. We are finishing up Season 1 in the coming weeks. I anticipate doing the final season One episode in January. After that, we will take a short hiatus (likely two months) to recharge and re-set things before season two.
In Menswork, there is always talk about working with the shadow. The shadow is defined as everything that we hide, repress, and deny about OURSELVES. It can be a tricky business, becoming aware of your shadowy tendencies. It takes patience, and perseverance, and compassion. However, the upside is…..it humanizes everyone. You stop putting all the things you find unsavory OUT THERE and then demonizing the other person.
Addiction is a life experience that touches us all. More than 21 million Americans have at least one addiction. Of those 21 million, only 10% receive any sort of treatment. Addiction is something that nearly every family knows. In a typical family, you don’t have to look very far to find someone who has an addiction or an addictive/compulsive personality. Enjoy the episode with my very special guest Dr. Bob Beare as we "look under the hood" of addiction.
My guest today is author Hylke Faber and he is an expert on mindset. There has been a surge of interest in recent years on mindset and psychology, and with good reason. Understanding the software that our brain is running and being able to upgrade it to something more powerful and uplifting, makes good sense for us human beings.
I remember reading Stephen Nachmanovitch‘s book 'Free Play' when I was a young man. I was getting curious about new ideas and new ways of approaching my life. The idea that improvisation could be an important life skill seemed both radical and relevant to me. I love writers that take a road-less traveled and then share the fruits of their path with the rest of the tribe. I am excited to introduce you to my guest today, author Stephen Nachmanovitch. I hope you enjoy this episode on improvisation and expression.
Today‘s episode is on healing trauma. As humans working on ourselves and the world, healing and learning go hand-in-hand. There is a strong tendency to think that we have not been traumatized. My guest today is an expert at working with trauma. Sam Ibarguen is an energy healer certified in Brennan Healing Science. Since 2009, she has been working with men and women globally, helping them heal the deep and often invisible trauma that holds them back from living the life they really want.
My guest today is Jason Maniccia an actor and artist that I have known for almost 30 years. And we sat down to talk about creativity, baseball, and the road less traveled. Any artist will tell you that one of the things you develop over time is an ability to listen to and express the Muse. This elusive collective creative force that beckons artists across time and space to express the power and beauty of the creatively-led life.
Lately, I have been sitting with the question: what can MEN do to help the world today? What do we need to do to insure that future generations thrive? How do we leave the world better than we found it? As a teacher who works with male archetypes, I have been dimly aware that there is one of the archetypes that today seems strangely dormant in the collective male psyche.......THE KING.
The Big D. Men and depression. I spent my early years as a man with an assumption that any man who had depression was too weak to handle life‘s natural ups and downs. After all, I was an athlete and athletes are taught to keep their energy up and throw any obstacles (emotional or otherwise) to the side so that you can “be all you can be”.
I remember the first time I read The Yugas, the book written by my guest today. It had the impact of giving me a much different perspective, a long vision of history and our place in it that filled me with wonder and hope. Even though I am an American and live far from India, I have marveled at the quality of teachers and wisdom that have poured forth from this amazing country. So with that being said, here is my interview with The Yugas author Joseph Selbie.
This week's episode is a flip of our usual format. Instead of Tony hosting, he is a guest on the radio show Story U in Seattle with host Debbie Handrich. Tony and Debby cover how Tony got started on all this "men’s stuff" as well as living with a Divine purpose. They cover the power of authenticity and being comfortable in your own skin.
Today’s guest is a perfect example of this. I originally connected with Tania Poletti on Facebook. She was posting all about Basecamp for Men and how much she loves the show and our message. So I reached out to her to see if she would be willing to have a chat with us. And she said yes! She lives in Australia and is an expert on health and fitness, so I thought it would be a great opportunity to connect with Tanya, find out what is happening with men in Australia, and ask her some important questions about men’s health.
Across time and culture, when things get soooo serious, there will arise the expressions of an archetype that will have none of this nonsense. As a collective expression, The Trickster can show us new possibilities when things get too regimented, too bound up by rules, and too mature or predictable. The Trickster wants to reshuffle the deck, to pull your pants down as you're addressing the crowd, to keep us all on our toes so that play can have its say.
Pema Chodron, the great Western Buddhist teacher, writes “Our personal attempts to live humanely in this world are never wasted. Choosing to cultivate love rather than anger just might be what it takes to save the planet from extinction. In today’s episode, we introduce Firestarters for Men, our new short format segment. This will be used from time-to-time as a break from our standard interview format and to offer something to listeners that is short and sweet.
The topic of boys and how to best set them up for optimal emotional well-being is a topic that is near and dear to me. With a twelve year-old son of my own and what I see as a woefully inept narrative when it comes to the inner lives of our boys, I have more than a passing concern with how we get our sons to healthy adulthood. What can a parent do to make sure our boys have what they REALLY need?
The heartbeat of this episode is AUTHENTICITY and my guest Kyle Bradford certainly embodies this quality. He shoots straight, tells it like it is, and owns his own mistakes and shadow. In short, he exemplifies living “wide open” and Kyle parents in this same style, as you’ll find out in this episode. We talk about gender, traditional values, and difficult discussions with our children.
All around the world, every single day, men are gathering in circles. Known as men’s groups, men’s work, or men’s wisdom circles, these groups provide an essential resource to the men who are open enough to seek them out. One of the great gifts of men’s groups is creating environments where men can set their feet on their best path. Men’s groups act as a "basecamp" for the uncertain Hero’s Journey.
As men, we are measured by society’s old narrative by how much we DO. And we have become really good at DOING THINGS but we have not been taught the value of slowing down. The old narrative says if we slow down, we might fall behind. Is this really true? As men with inner power, do we really not have time for ourselves? It‘s an interesting assumption, isn’t it?